I am not a feminist.
Sorry to disappoint some of you.
I am also not a misogynist, so there ya go.
I grew up in a tradition that taught female subordination to male headship. Male was created first, female to be his helper. With this in mind, it was obvious that the Bible called women to be servants to men; specifically wives to their husbands. This is what I knew.
But is that what Genesis really says?
Showing posts with label Gender. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Gender. Show all posts
Thursday, March 29, 2012
Thursday, February 16, 2012
What Do I Mean By Complementarian?
Hello, my name is Matt and i am a Complementarian.
WHEW! It feels good to finally just come out and say it. And I have to admit that it is true, at the deepest part of my being I believe that husband-wife relationships are best described as complementary. I know many of you who read this may have very strong negative connotations about this word and concept, but please, let me explain myself.
Basically, there are five things that play into my view of marital relationships as complementary:
1. I believe that men and women are intrinsically different.
I think we can look at the natural world and the creation account in Genesis and see that we are created to be two halves of one humanity. Women are not created to be men and men are not created to be women. There are things that make men think, work, and act differently than women think, work, and act. This does not place one as better than the other, just different.
2. I believe all human relationships require some level of complementarianism.
The concept of absolute equality in decision making, for example, is a myth. It cannot happen. Someone must naturally take the lead in any relationship. It is imperative that as humans, we learn how to be both the leader and follower for different moments and roles that we will find ourselves filling in life.
3. I believe love leads to complementary relationships.
Only when I am in a relationship for myself and my well-being am I worried about having my fair share of power. Marriage is not about me. Marriage is about love. Love leads me to look to the good of the other--to see how I can come alongside and complement the work God is already doing in them. Love leads to complementary relationships.
Yes, I am a complementarian. The truth is that I am also an egalitarian, but that discussion can wait until tomorrow.
What do you think? Are you a complementarian? What makes you embrace this view of marriage? Does your marriage look this way in practice, or just theory?
WHEW! It feels good to finally just come out and say it. And I have to admit that it is true, at the deepest part of my being I believe that husband-wife relationships are best described as complementary. I know many of you who read this may have very strong negative connotations about this word and concept, but please, let me explain myself.
Basically, there are five things that play into my view of marital relationships as complementary:
1. I believe that men and women are intrinsically different.
I think we can look at the natural world and the creation account in Genesis and see that we are created to be two halves of one humanity. Women are not created to be men and men are not created to be women. There are things that make men think, work, and act differently than women think, work, and act. This does not place one as better than the other, just different.
2. I believe all human relationships require some level of complementarianism.
The concept of absolute equality in decision making, for example, is a myth. It cannot happen. Someone must naturally take the lead in any relationship. It is imperative that as humans, we learn how to be both the leader and follower for different moments and roles that we will find ourselves filling in life.
3. I believe love leads to complementary relationships.
Only when I am in a relationship for myself and my well-being am I worried about having my fair share of power. Marriage is not about me. Marriage is about love. Love leads me to look to the good of the other--to see how I can come alongside and complement the work God is already doing in them. Love leads to complementary relationships.
Yes, I am a complementarian. The truth is that I am also an egalitarian, but that discussion can wait until tomorrow.
What do you think? Are you a complementarian? What makes you embrace this view of marriage? Does your marriage look this way in practice, or just theory?
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
The Issue of Gender
The American church is run by women.
Oh sure, the leaders of most evangelical churches are men, but the actual leaders are women...
...their wives
...older matriarchs
...spiritually mature women
The issue I am addressing today, attempting to look at five aspects of biblical manhood and womanhood, needs to begin with a dose of reality.
Regardless of our theological convictions, we have lived within a church culture that has accepted female leadership for years.
Second, I will, at the end of this post, point out how the convictions stated in this blog play out in my life at the end of the blog. My intent is to show that healthy, biblical convictions regarding any topic must have application in the life of the convicted.
With these two notes in mind, I would like to investigate five aspects of gender which the Bible discusses:
1. The NATURE of gender
Genesis 1:27 gives us the basis for understanding the nature of gender. God creates humanity, and he does so with two distinct characteristics: We were God's image-bearers and we have two genders. I want to emphasize here that woman was never an afterthought, as if God decided to create woman after the fact. NO, he created humanity with the intent of creating male and female. Both Genders are included as image bearers--we both reflect and image-forth the identity of God to the world.
The nature of humanity also points to the distinctness of our genders. Though both reflect God (and neither do perfectly!), we are also created unique--not like the other. It is more than anatomical parts. God created us to have two halves, male and female. We see this twofold distinction as a gift from God, not as a curse. Please note that this distinction does not make one gender "better" than the other. They are both unique, both important.
2. The UNION of genders
Marriage, according to the Bible, is where the two genders are made "one flesh." In this divine union, two parts become one whole. There is a completeness to it. We find that this union comes with distinctive roles (not jobs) for each gender. We find this in the creation story of Adam and Eve (Eve created as a helper/lifesaver), and more perfectly in Ephesians. Ephesians calls husbands to the role of the perfect lover, imaging forth (as our original intent) the self-sacrificial love of Christ. The love we give, the lessons we offer, the words we use, and the choices we make are all with the betterment of our wives in mind.
Wives, in this picture, are called to submit/respect their husbands. Here is where we sometimes lose people: This is not a call to lose one's opinion, lose one's identity, or any other garbage theology. This is a call to image forth God's transformational power in the church. The wife, like the church, embraces the sacrificial love of her husband and allows it to fill her. If we resist Christ's sacrificial love, we reject him and his power in our lives--the same is true of the husband/wife relationship.
It is important to note (thanks to poor theological teaching in some church circles) that this passage in NO WAY allows for any man to "have authority" over any woman. In fact, this passage teaches "mutual submission" not dominant authority. We see a circle of service, beginning with the husbands sacrificial love, that always looks to the other instead of the self. This passage is entirely contained in the marriage relationship, and has no command over male-female relationships of ANY other nature.
3. The EQUALITY of the genders
According to Galatians, in Christ we are all one, and this means, specifically stated, that there is no male or female. This means that our standing before God is absolutely equal. We each have responsibility in our own spiritual lives, and we are equally part of God's kingdom, the body of Christ. There is no biblical text to support a view of one gender as superior to the other.
It is important to note that this does not eliminate the nature of the genders--created unique. We are still created as two parts to one whole--not of the same substance, but the same standing. Just like Jews and Gentiles were in the same standing by God's grace, but they were still uniquely different, so with men and women.
4. The Roles of the genders
There are two difficult passages that teach that women are to remain quiet. These are tricky passages, and must be treated with respect, but also with careful study of context. We see in 1 Corinthians that Paul points to the Law as his reason for requiring quietness among female Christians. However, in the same book he discusses how women were expected to pray (vocally in the midst of the church), and prophesy (which would require words).
1 Timothy calls women to learn in quietness and full submission (to whom?). It is followed by a call for women (or wives) not to have authority over men (or husbands). I tend toward the husband/wife view because it harkens back to the Adam and Eve story in this context. This passage is extremely difficult.
The two passages, taken together, point us to a role within the church that requires submission to someone/something. In other passages, we see that women are to avoid acting in such a way that tends toward overt sexuality--women were not created to be sexual object within the church. Unlike many religions of the day, women were participants in the church, not objects of enjoyment for the male members.
I would like to point out, concerning the two main passages found here, that though they are certainly open to interpretation on some respects they cannot be argued as cultural teachings. To claim Paul was speaking culturally is to completely ignore the context and reasoning of Paul. Paul reasons back to creation, the fall, and the law to make his argument for quietness and submission. For us to ignore this context is to take free reign of the text, picking and choosing what brings us pleasure and what annoys and challenges us can be ignored or altered. This is dangerous and faulty exegesis.
5. The JOBS of our genders
Finally, we find the final point, the jobs that God grants to men and women. Looking first to Proverbs 31, we find a woman who is a worker--not a homemaker. Proverbs praises a woman who assists the family in financial means, and who is a blessing to her husband and kids. Any reading of Prov 31 to point to a humble homemaker is a gross misreading of the text.
In the New Testament, we see women titled with every title except one: the job of elder/overseer. (Note, the term elder is used once referring to the elderly women in 1 Timothy 5--an interesting passage!). The overseers were the final rule and authority for the church. They were those recruited to maintain correct doctrine and to correct and rebuke those in need of spiritual repentance.
This points me to believe that women, who were called preacher/prophets, deacons, apostles, etc., were able to do anything, with the likely exception of overseers. The Bible never outright rules against women in this role of leadership, but the balk of evidence points us to this conclusion. We must maintain that men and women could each have the same jobs within the church, except that role of spiritual guardian.
What does it mean to me?
My wife is a godly woman. She respects me, she allows me to love her in a way that lifts her up, allowing me to serve her. She is also, in many ways a leader in our church. She leads worship, teaches Bible (she is one of two people in the church who know ancient Greek--I am the other), and helps in the youth. She can speak to men of the church and they listen. She can teach me and I will listen. However, she has always submitted to the elders, following their guidelines for worship, study, etc. She is not a "less than" but a "same as." She has purpose and propriety (not in the Puritanical sense!)
What would submitting to biblical teaching on gender roles change about you? Guys, have you been guilty of demeaning women to uphold your "biblical right"? If so, what must change? Ladies, where have we as men done a bad job of showing you the equality? What do you think about the job issue? How does this play out in modern churches?
I would love to hear your thoughts!
Oh sure, the leaders of most evangelical churches are men, but the actual leaders are women...
...their wives
...older matriarchs
...spiritually mature women
The issue I am addressing today, attempting to look at five aspects of biblical manhood and womanhood, needs to begin with a dose of reality.
Regardless of our theological convictions, we have lived within a church culture that has accepted female leadership for years.
Second, I will, at the end of this post, point out how the convictions stated in this blog play out in my life at the end of the blog. My intent is to show that healthy, biblical convictions regarding any topic must have application in the life of the convicted.
With these two notes in mind, I would like to investigate five aspects of gender which the Bible discusses:
1. The NATURE of gender
Genesis 1:27 gives us the basis for understanding the nature of gender. God creates humanity, and he does so with two distinct characteristics: We were God's image-bearers and we have two genders. I want to emphasize here that woman was never an afterthought, as if God decided to create woman after the fact. NO, he created humanity with the intent of creating male and female. Both Genders are included as image bearers--we both reflect and image-forth the identity of God to the world.
The nature of humanity also points to the distinctness of our genders. Though both reflect God (and neither do perfectly!), we are also created unique--not like the other. It is more than anatomical parts. God created us to have two halves, male and female. We see this twofold distinction as a gift from God, not as a curse. Please note that this distinction does not make one gender "better" than the other. They are both unique, both important.
2. The UNION of genders
Marriage, according to the Bible, is where the two genders are made "one flesh." In this divine union, two parts become one whole. There is a completeness to it. We find that this union comes with distinctive roles (not jobs) for each gender. We find this in the creation story of Adam and Eve (Eve created as a helper/lifesaver), and more perfectly in Ephesians. Ephesians calls husbands to the role of the perfect lover, imaging forth (as our original intent) the self-sacrificial love of Christ. The love we give, the lessons we offer, the words we use, and the choices we make are all with the betterment of our wives in mind.
Wives, in this picture, are called to submit/respect their husbands. Here is where we sometimes lose people: This is not a call to lose one's opinion, lose one's identity, or any other garbage theology. This is a call to image forth God's transformational power in the church. The wife, like the church, embraces the sacrificial love of her husband and allows it to fill her. If we resist Christ's sacrificial love, we reject him and his power in our lives--the same is true of the husband/wife relationship.
It is important to note (thanks to poor theological teaching in some church circles) that this passage in NO WAY allows for any man to "have authority" over any woman. In fact, this passage teaches "mutual submission" not dominant authority. We see a circle of service, beginning with the husbands sacrificial love, that always looks to the other instead of the self. This passage is entirely contained in the marriage relationship, and has no command over male-female relationships of ANY other nature.
3. The EQUALITY of the genders
According to Galatians, in Christ we are all one, and this means, specifically stated, that there is no male or female. This means that our standing before God is absolutely equal. We each have responsibility in our own spiritual lives, and we are equally part of God's kingdom, the body of Christ. There is no biblical text to support a view of one gender as superior to the other.
It is important to note that this does not eliminate the nature of the genders--created unique. We are still created as two parts to one whole--not of the same substance, but the same standing. Just like Jews and Gentiles were in the same standing by God's grace, but they were still uniquely different, so with men and women.
4. The Roles of the genders
There are two difficult passages that teach that women are to remain quiet. These are tricky passages, and must be treated with respect, but also with careful study of context. We see in 1 Corinthians that Paul points to the Law as his reason for requiring quietness among female Christians. However, in the same book he discusses how women were expected to pray (vocally in the midst of the church), and prophesy (which would require words).
1 Timothy calls women to learn in quietness and full submission (to whom?). It is followed by a call for women (or wives) not to have authority over men (or husbands). I tend toward the husband/wife view because it harkens back to the Adam and Eve story in this context. This passage is extremely difficult.
The two passages, taken together, point us to a role within the church that requires submission to someone/something. In other passages, we see that women are to avoid acting in such a way that tends toward overt sexuality--women were not created to be sexual object within the church. Unlike many religions of the day, women were participants in the church, not objects of enjoyment for the male members.
I would like to point out, concerning the two main passages found here, that though they are certainly open to interpretation on some respects they cannot be argued as cultural teachings. To claim Paul was speaking culturally is to completely ignore the context and reasoning of Paul. Paul reasons back to creation, the fall, and the law to make his argument for quietness and submission. For us to ignore this context is to take free reign of the text, picking and choosing what brings us pleasure and what annoys and challenges us can be ignored or altered. This is dangerous and faulty exegesis.
5. The JOBS of our genders
Finally, we find the final point, the jobs that God grants to men and women. Looking first to Proverbs 31, we find a woman who is a worker--not a homemaker. Proverbs praises a woman who assists the family in financial means, and who is a blessing to her husband and kids. Any reading of Prov 31 to point to a humble homemaker is a gross misreading of the text.
In the New Testament, we see women titled with every title except one: the job of elder/overseer. (Note, the term elder is used once referring to the elderly women in 1 Timothy 5--an interesting passage!). The overseers were the final rule and authority for the church. They were those recruited to maintain correct doctrine and to correct and rebuke those in need of spiritual repentance.
This points me to believe that women, who were called preacher/prophets, deacons, apostles, etc., were able to do anything, with the likely exception of overseers. The Bible never outright rules against women in this role of leadership, but the balk of evidence points us to this conclusion. We must maintain that men and women could each have the same jobs within the church, except that role of spiritual guardian.
What does it mean to me?
My wife is a godly woman. She respects me, she allows me to love her in a way that lifts her up, allowing me to serve her. She is also, in many ways a leader in our church. She leads worship, teaches Bible (she is one of two people in the church who know ancient Greek--I am the other), and helps in the youth. She can speak to men of the church and they listen. She can teach me and I will listen. However, she has always submitted to the elders, following their guidelines for worship, study, etc. She is not a "less than" but a "same as." She has purpose and propriety (not in the Puritanical sense!)
What would submitting to biblical teaching on gender roles change about you? Guys, have you been guilty of demeaning women to uphold your "biblical right"? If so, what must change? Ladies, where have we as men done a bad job of showing you the equality? What do you think about the job issue? How does this play out in modern churches?
I would love to hear your thoughts!
Monday, July 11, 2011
Would God Really?
The title of this post is in my opinion the most dangerous question we can ask.
Would God really?
Would God really condemn homosexuality?
Would God really send people to hell?
Would God really create man and woman with different roles?
Would he?
I have a major issue with this type of language. Let me explain the danger of this little phrase.
First, this phrase expresses a secret atheism. I believe that among many modern Christians a moderated atheism has become an acceptable norm. This strand of atheism expresses itself by creating for oneself a form of godliness that fits the cultural norms that we have established for ourselves. In other words, we suggest that if our God doesn't believe exactly as we do, he must not be much of a God. This is the crux of secret atheism. We don't really believe in a God that is beyond our scope, our mind, our capability. We only want the religious experience and the peace it brings. In other words, we desire the peace found in the gospel without the God who brings the gospel.
Second, when we pose the question "Would God really?" we are suffering from cultural elitism. Think about this for a second. The Middle Ages (and much of the religious right) struggle with the question of whether God would really call us to a life of peace. When we assume that God couldn't condemn certain lifestyles, certain supposed victimless crimes, what we really assume is that our current culture understands the ultimate direction required for societal perfection. This is the same elitist mindset that declared the earth was flat. We cannot trust ourselves as the ultimate standard of the universe, of God's creation, or of God's design for human life.
Third, what we are really saying when we say "would God really" is something more like this: This is so far removed from my understanding that I refuse to acknowledge God if he works this way. In other words, we again want to place God in a box we can understand.
If God really created everything (think about that for a minute: everything!), can't we expect him to have a little different viewpoint on the world than we do? Can't we expect that God says things, does things, teaches things, and commands things that just plain don't make sense to us?
This week, I will look at several issues where God says things that go against our cultural senses. I am going to try to be fair with biblical texts, even when they make me squirm (and some issues that come up in the Bible really do make me uncomfortable). I ask you to join me, challenge yourself to take God's word seriously.
Perhaps he will make you uncomfortable. It may scare you. But transformation is always difficult, it always hurts. If we are truly Christian, if we are truly followers of God, than we must allow Him to transform us through His word. Imagine if a caterpillar never became a butterfly because if feared the transformation within the chrysalis. The beauty God intended for it would be missed altogether. Join me, and perhaps we can transform ourselves into something better entirely: Faithful People.
Topics:
Wednesday: Gender Roles
Thursday: Peacefulness
Friday: Unity
Monday: Homosexuality
Tuesday: Eternal Judgment
Wednesday: Redemption
I look forward to some good conversations!
Would God really?
Would God really condemn homosexuality?
Would God really send people to hell?
Would God really create man and woman with different roles?
Would he?
I have a major issue with this type of language. Let me explain the danger of this little phrase.
First, this phrase expresses a secret atheism. I believe that among many modern Christians a moderated atheism has become an acceptable norm. This strand of atheism expresses itself by creating for oneself a form of godliness that fits the cultural norms that we have established for ourselves. In other words, we suggest that if our God doesn't believe exactly as we do, he must not be much of a God. This is the crux of secret atheism. We don't really believe in a God that is beyond our scope, our mind, our capability. We only want the religious experience and the peace it brings. In other words, we desire the peace found in the gospel without the God who brings the gospel.
Second, when we pose the question "Would God really?" we are suffering from cultural elitism. Think about this for a second. The Middle Ages (and much of the religious right) struggle with the question of whether God would really call us to a life of peace. When we assume that God couldn't condemn certain lifestyles, certain supposed victimless crimes, what we really assume is that our current culture understands the ultimate direction required for societal perfection. This is the same elitist mindset that declared the earth was flat. We cannot trust ourselves as the ultimate standard of the universe, of God's creation, or of God's design for human life.
Third, what we are really saying when we say "would God really" is something more like this: This is so far removed from my understanding that I refuse to acknowledge God if he works this way. In other words, we again want to place God in a box we can understand.
If God really created everything (think about that for a minute: everything!), can't we expect him to have a little different viewpoint on the world than we do? Can't we expect that God says things, does things, teaches things, and commands things that just plain don't make sense to us?
This week, I will look at several issues where God says things that go against our cultural senses. I am going to try to be fair with biblical texts, even when they make me squirm (and some issues that come up in the Bible really do make me uncomfortable). I ask you to join me, challenge yourself to take God's word seriously.
Perhaps he will make you uncomfortable. It may scare you. But transformation is always difficult, it always hurts. If we are truly Christian, if we are truly followers of God, than we must allow Him to transform us through His word. Imagine if a caterpillar never became a butterfly because if feared the transformation within the chrysalis. The beauty God intended for it would be missed altogether. Join me, and perhaps we can transform ourselves into something better entirely: Faithful People.
Topics:
Wednesday: Gender Roles
Thursday: Peacefulness
Friday: Unity
Monday: Homosexuality
Tuesday: Eternal Judgment
Wednesday: Redemption
I look forward to some good conversations!
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